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Why You Should Stop Gun Shaming

Gun owners and people in the Second Amendment community can
be the friendliest and most giving people you’ll ever run into out in the world. If you’re at the range and you ask someone in
the port next to you about their gun, next thing you know, they’re inviting you
to fire off over fifteen dollars of their ammunition through it so that you
have a chance to try it out. When I was
a range safety officer (RSO) at a commercial range, I’d always have customers
offer up their different firearms for me to try out. Usually, I’d ask them if they were looking
for me to “function check” it. You know, this way, it made sense for me to be “playing”
while on the job. It all goes with the
territory. At the same time, gun owners,
for lack of a better term, can be the biggest wankers.

The same people that will hand over their $1,500.00 custom
firearm and a box of ammo for a stranger to try out can be the same people that
will un-relentlessly bash and abuse other gun owners. To be perfectly fair, I can’t say that I’ve
personally been an angel in this department when discussing concepts. My personal views on things revolve around
the cerebral elements first, and those that are not tapping into them (thought)
make me frustrated.

Two topics, quite similar, come to mind—one deals with concealed carry and the other deals with the storage of firearms. Full disclosure, in the Garden State, we are
a “may issue” state, which actually reads “no issue.” My personal experience with carrying has been
limited to open carry as an RSO and home carry.
However, the concepts behind the subject I’m going to discuss are ones I
can wrap my head around.

Becoming a gun owner can be an exciting and intimidating
time. Suppose someone has opted to
become a gun owner because they want to conceal carry, depending on residence
jurisdiction. In that case, a person can go from being completely unarmed one
minute and holster up the next. Even in
states that require some sort of permit and training process, sure, it’s not an
individual’s 1st rodeo when they finally do have and carry their
gun, but we expect a lot out of people that are only in their 2nd
rodeo. Fellow instructor, podcaster (Riding Shotgun With Charlie), a
cultivator of the gun
gram
, and friend Charlie Cook
often talk about the process of easing into becoming a full-fledged concealed
carrier.

In Charlie’s home state of Massachusetts, the requirements
to get a license to carry involve an approved class. In Massachusetts’s statute, there is no
provision that students have to fire a live weapon to qualify. For jurisdictions to require that, it would
be unlawful. One of the more popular
classes taught is a non-firing home firearm safety class (several live-fire
courses are accepted for training, though).
Many of the material he covers involves safely handling a firearm, how
they work, and the rules of use and storage.
For students that want to experience shooting, he’ll usually schedule a
follow-up lesson with them after they’ve obtained their permit.

When it comes to concealed carry, Charlie talks about when
he started to carry:

“I
guess…I was nervous and maybe a little scared about it ‘going off.’ The kids were young, both under five. I could only carry at church, not during the
week, so that’s where I carried. The whole idea was new and foreign to me. I wanted to carry a .38 snub revolver. Like
many, I started with a Fobus holster for my gun. Being new to this, I carried my gun unloaded
and kept a speed loader with me. I
wanted to be comfortable. This was all
new…”

The critical thing here is that different people have
different levels of comfort. Cook admits
it took him a little while to carry a gun and eventually go about doing so
loaded. And other concealed carriers
that wish to chastise and gun shame someone else for how they decide to ease
into the armed world is just not cool.
Look at the situation analytically.
Yesterday, the new gun owner was completely unarmed. They were walking
the streets and living their life unarmed.
If that person decides they want to carry their firearm unloaded or with
no round in the chamber for the first week, month, or year of getting into this
world, that is their own business. So
what if they want to get more comfortable?
That is on them, and they are no more disarmed than they were without a
firearm – perhaps a little less. What
else is their own business is their own personal safety. We should be doing as gun owners continue to
nurture, work with, and educate the newly armed, rather than chastise, berate,
and belittle them.

Cook’s experience calls to mind something called The
Schwartz Rule. Named after the Executive Director of San Diego County Gun
Owners, Michael Schwartz. Michael
explains his methodology:

“I’m a staunch advocate that any gun owner that is breaking in or getting used to a
new holster, that they carry without a round in the chamber for the first
month. At least, that is what I do…and
really, if you think about it, it makes sense because you’re just getting used
to something new. No, it’s not for
everyone, but I prefer to be safe rather than sorry.”

Cook caps off this concept the best by saying:

“We’re all on the same path to carrying (a firearm) and defending our loved ones. But
some folks are further down the road.”

In a past
article, I discussed keeping a firearm unloaded until ready for use
. This statement is one of the NRA safety
rules. This idea is also a good
practice. In the article, I define quite
well that the concept of “use” is one a user must define. Naturally, any firearm that is being kept for
self-defense would be in use. Any gun
that one would want to lean on should they need it would be worked into a
particular home self-defense plan. After
all, the heart of the article was revolving around guns not being used. The concept of thinking about what works for
a particular individual involves that person thinking about it. It’s quite simple. I’m not going to “tell” someone how they
“shall” store a firearm. However, I will
advocate if you’re not using the gun, or you do not intend to have it ready for
self-defense, that you keep it unloaded.

The ins and outs of “use” can be discussed for hours. That’s what makes it a concept. The gun owner that has one pistol that they
bought for home self-defense, I’d imagine, would keep it loaded and ready to
go. The gun collector that has 5, 10,
20, 50, etc., guns may not want to keep all 50 of them loaded at all
times. Perhaps, just the one that they
decide is being “used.” Or the five they are “using.” We can use our imaginations here.

I gathered the article was polarizing to many people, which
baffles me. I wonder how many people out
there virtue-signaling ever took an NRA Basic class? Versus, say, an introductory USCCA
class. They are different, for
sure. If you’re going to have your
Cooper’s rules versus NRA rules debate, that is the subject of that debate.

I got a very mixed bag of comments that came through various
social media pages. The majority of them
were very positive. Some people went out
of their way to explain they were glad they read the article before
commenting. Isn’t that a novel
idea? Read the content, then comment. Then there were several naysayers. The comments that came up were very similar
to those that Cook has heard himself in the gun community when he talks about
easing into a carry lifestyle by keeping a gun unloaded until feeling
comfortable with it being loaded. To
name a few:

“An unloaded gun is a paperweight.”

“It’s just a fancy hammer if it’s not loaded.”

“What I learned was NOT to keep a gun unloaded. It’s to
assume and treat all firearms as if they are loaded.”

“Everyone in the house needs to be trained, and of course,
it will never be unloaded. What’s the use! You don’t know when you’re going to
need it. That’s the whole point!”

And much to my dismay, my favorite comment I read was
deleted. But I’ll paraphrase:

“I’m not even going to read this article.”

The poster explained in subsequent comments they don’t need
to read the article because they have their own ideology. Explained the doctrine and completely
dismissed everything everyone else had to say that disagreed. My question is, why even comment in the first
place then? Would that not be a
non-sequitur? Master firearms instructor
Anthony Colandro from New Jersey puts it best when describing gun owners “We eat our own.”

But not all were negative, and several people rallied around the article:

“Very good read! No negative comments until you take the time to read!”

“Well, I’m glad I read the article before commenting.”

And my favorite positive comment:

“Some peoples’ brains are unloaded right now, read the
article before commenting.”

The point is, when it comes to personal self-defense, let’s
focus on what that really means. It’s
personal. What is good for me may not be
right for the next person. Whether we
are arguing overusing a shotgun for home self-defense or which make and model
pistol is the best, this boils down to the individual. If a new concealed carrier wants to get used
to carrying a gun by doing so with it unloaded, God bless if someone is
advocating that a firearm not in “use” be kept unloaded, kudos!

Our job as gun owners and those trainers out there is to
help those that are just entering our world.
Cultivate thought and have conversations. If the line of thinking is unrealistic, then
do your best to impart why. I’m just as guilty of this as the next person. Make your points by advocating for real-time
walkthroughs and scenarios. If the
concept is lost, it’s lost. Training
with a competent instructor helps illustrate what is real versus what is not. But for sure, let’s not just come out of the
paddock and tell our new friends, new members of our community, how dumb they
are because they have a different comfort level. To paraphrase one of the comments, keep your
brain “loaded” before talking. I
certainly apologize to those of you who disagreed in a less than courteous
manner over the years. At the end of the
day, our safety is #1, so forgive me for my passions.

Stay safe out there and think before you do!

John Petrolino is a US Merchant Marine Officer, writer,
author of “Decoding
Firearms: An Easy to Read Guide on General Gun Safety & Use”
and USCCA
certified instructor, NRA certified pistol, rifle, and shotgun instructor
living under and working to change New Jersey’s draconian and unconstitutional
gun laws. You can find him on the web at www.johnpetrolino.com
on Twitter at @johnpetrolino
and on Instagram @jpetrolinoiii

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