I read a statistic that many of the concealed carriers in
the US are middle-aged men, which seemed perplexing to me. I say that because,
first off, I want everyone to carry, but second, I would think that women would
be a more significant percentage due to the self-defense aspect and firearms
being a great equalizer. So, I asked my wife, military friends, and any female
I could find why they don’t carry, and here are some of the answers I got.
Many women I talked to stressed that they knew they were
smaller and a firearm might be good for protection, but they were inexperienced
or unfamiliar with where to start. I would compare this to a guy going into a
gym with all free weights and many ripped dudes pounding serious irons. As I
have had that situation, I know that it’s very intimidating to ask for help or
where to start. Compound that with many of the guys I have seen at the range
helping to give some instruction tend to show off or have “man’s calibers
like 44 mag, 45 ACP or 357 magnum” as starter guns. While I don’t think
that it is done out of machismo, I believe it is incredibly stupid to hand a
small hand cannon that a 6’2″ 215lb guy can absorb the recoil, and his 5’0110lb
wife is expected to do the same. Gents, be smart. If your lady, daughter, or
friend is expressing interest, start them on something small and build up to
larger calibers. If you don’t own one, rent one because you want it to be fun
and empowering, not defeating.
Holsters don’t fit clothing
Most yoga pants, jeggings, or dresses are limited in their
belt and pocket carrying capacities. That said, with great holsters like the Original and Roughneck and other options at JM4 Tactical, that excuse can be
minimized to conceal in any clothing, including those mentioned above. While I do
not recommend it, you could use them in a purse as well, and they are great for
use in a vehicle, as shown on
Not aggressive/do not want to hurt anyone
Most men tend to be more aggressive and, therefore, more
prone to violence. Several women I talked to said they wouldn’t want to do harm
if someone was stealing from them. However, the mothers in the group all stated
they would go “full mama bear” if their kids’ lives were in danger. I
think it is important to remember that you have no idea what the intention of
the assailant is. It could be petty theft or could be rape or murder. You can’t
assume that every person will only want your purse, so better be prepared to go
to that level than to realize you misjudged and now are too late.
While we would like to assume that the world is better than
it is, unfortunately, you need to prepare for the worst that way; you are ready
to come whatever may. That means the right mindset, proper gear, and being ready
to fight because your life and those of your family may depend on it.
Author: Ian Bolser
Stay safe and stay vigilant.